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‘Til Death Us Do Part Even After Divorce

November 2, 2018 By Cindi Barela Graham Leave a Comment

‘Til Death Us Do Part – The Unintentional Fulfillment of Their Marital Vows, Even After their Divorce

dying ex-husband and wife by his side

A former client called me today to ask what to do with regard to child support since her ex-spouse had died.  After I told her, she thanked me for my help in their divorce.  They divorced collaboratively. 

She went on to describe that in the eight plus years since their divorce, they had co-parented successfully.  She said that even though people around them wanted them to hate each other and ridicule each other following their divorce, they refused to do so, instead focusing on the new family dynamic that was created following their divorce.  They worked together to assure that their children were happy and had great relationships with each parent.

Explaining that as he was dying following a long illness, her ex-inlaws were present as was she.  She knew he was suffering on that last night and so she told his sister that she was staying with him.  She lay down on the bed with him and he put his arm over her as he had done during their twenty-five year marriage.  She awoke later to discover that he had passed away. 

Her mother-in-law insisted that she attend the funeral with them and my client’s two children and that they face this as the family that they still were. 

Crediting the Collaborative Divorce Process, my client states that they would not have had this type of relationship but for the dignity and respect that they committed to during their divorce.  When we divorce Collaboratively, we hope the result will be good for the families going forward.  What a huge testament to both of these parents and my client’s former in-laws for maintaining their love and grace during this very difficult time.  They refused to hate and chose to love and honor each other, and thereby their family as well.  While they had dissolved their marital vows many years before, those parts of their vows actually survived.

About Cindi Barela Graham

Cindi Barela Graham has been practicing law in the Amarillo area for over 26 years with a current focus on Family Law. She is Board Certified by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization in Family Law since 2002. Cindi speaks at continuing legal education programs on topics such as child custody, modifications, enforcement, and property division.

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