There is no doubt that going through a divorce is extremely stressful. It is much akin to death. It is, in fact, the death of a marriage and nothing hurts like losing someone you love whether it is due to death, divorce or the breakup of a non-marital relationship. People go through the same stages of grief during a breakup that they would if their spouse died. Most of us have heard of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. All of us … [Read more...]
Three Texas-Sized Divorce e-Myths
In the post-information age in which we live, we can literally find an answer to any question within seconds at the touch of a button or a question to Alexa. However, finding accurate and relevant information can be much more challenging, especially when it comes to finding answers to frequently-asked questions about divorce. There is quite a bit of misinformation on the internet today about divorce laws in Texas. Here are three of the most common e-myths: 1. Texas is a “50/50” State. … [Read more...]
When is Collaborative Law the Best Solution to Divorce?
At the beginning of the collaborative process all parties must sign an agreement that they will not go to court. As a result, if the process does not work, the attorneys must withdraw, and the parties must select new attorneys. In Dallas and Austin collaborative law is well-known as an option that works well for some couples seeking a divorce. In Houston, collaborative divorce is gradually becoming better known. What exactly is collaborative divorce and when should you refer someone to a … [Read more...]
When You Only Think You’re Saving Money On The Divorce
Getting divorced (and doing it well) is an expensive task.If someone were to do the impossible task of removing all the emotional complexity out of, it would be a lot like dissolving a business partnership. You must decide how to disentangle and rearrange all these things: FinancesHome(s)CarsKids schedules (maybe)Retirement plan(s) Most people struggle to handle tough decisions like this at any time - let alone when things are so emotionally difficult.ADDITIONALLY: There is financial … [Read more...]
Who Gets Fluffy and Fido In The Divorce?
Although many of us consider our pets to be family members, the Texas Family Code still considers them to be property, for the purposes of a divorce. If your pet was acquired, adopted or purchased during the marriage, most likely the pet is community property. That means that a divorce court would have to decide who to “award” Fido or Fluffy to as part of a “just and right division” of the community estate. If the pet was previously owned by a spouse or given to a spouse as a gift, or … [Read more...]
Do You Own a Business and Need a Divorce?
You and your spouse may want to consider a Collaborative Divorce if you own your own business. Why? 1. Minimize disruption of business operations. Sometimes when business owners are divorcing, the business’ employees will find out there is a pending divorce and then become fearful that they will lose their job for fear that the business will be sold or go under because there is a pending divorce. The employees do not know the details behind their scenes, therefore, all they can do is … [Read more...]
Understanding How The Collaborative Process Works
According to the statute, we get into collaborative by signing a participation agreement. If you're not working under the family law statute, you're just signing a contract to enroll you into the process in a case such as a probate matter or a civil litigation dispute. The statute says collaborative means you have dedicated settlement counsel and must have two lawyers. We sign a participation agreement that says the collaborative lawyers will not be litigation counsel if this opts out of … [Read more...]
Bankruptcy and the Collaborative Process
Many couples who face divorce do so because they have been experiencing significant financial difficulties. These financial woes may be one among many factors, or perhaps the only factor, that has led to the breakdown of the marriage. These difficulties may be exacerbated by going from a dual-income household to a single-income household, perhaps due to job loss, illness, or another significant life change. When couples face these issues and decide to file for divorce, it is important to … [Read more...]
Ten Tips for Co-Parenting
Today's world presents many unnecessary stressors on children. For example, children should not have additional stress in their life from the two people they love and admire the most, their mother and father. These ten tips should help you co-parent in a more stress-free environment that will benefit not only you but more importantly will alleviate your child dealing with one less stressor in their life. Number One - Love your children more then you dislike the other parent. … [Read more...]
Divorce: Dividing the House and Other Assets
Psychiatrists and psychologists rank divorce as the second most stressful life event behind the death of a spouse. In a divorce, one of the most frustrating parts of the process involves the division of the family’s assets. Both spouses are concerned about how they will stretch the finances that have supported one household to now support two. One of the biggest pieces of the financial puzzle is “Who gets the house in a divorce?” In traditional divorce litigation, the focus is often on, … [Read more...]
