One of the biggest challenges facing parents who are divorcing is how to create and maintain a healthy and effective post-divorce relationship, especially when it comes to (co)parenting their children. We know from the research and clinical experience that the single most important predictor of a child’s adjustment post-divorce is the level of conflict between their parents. In fact, parental … [Read more...] about Co-Parenting Post Divorce: What Does It Really Mean?
Today's world presents many unnecessary stressors on children. For example, children should not have additional stress in their life from the two people they love and admire the most, their mother and father. These ten tips should help you co-parent in a more stress-free environment that will benefit not only you but more importantly will alleviate your child dealing with one less stressor in … [Read more...] about Ten Tips for Co-Parenting
The phrase “Co-parenting and Collaborative Law” has a nice ring to it. But how does the collaborative process facilitate co-parenting? Does the collaborative process actually facilitate co-parenting at all? Co-parenting after divorce is difficult for most couples. What can we do in the collaborative process to enable effective co-parenting? When comparing the collaborative process to the … [Read more...] about Co-Parenting and Collaborative Law
Having and raising children is a challenge. Having to co-parent children during separation or divorce can feel impossible. Children see and hear the sadness and anger taking place around them. Parents don’t always think about what is in the best interests of the children, because they are so hurt or upset by their own pain. Teaching parents to focus on what is truly best for the children is … [Read more...] about What is Co-Parenting and Why Do You Have to Do It?
Communication is important in all aspects of life … work, home, relationships and friendships. Communication is even more important in divorce situations because emotions are typically high, and relationships strained. Although it is easier said than done, it is extremely important to communicate effectively with an ex-spouse. This will allow a better co-parenting relationship which is always in … [Read more...] about Communication and Co-Parenting
I don’t think any couple going through a Collaborative Divorce ever imagined they would have to come up with co-parenting guidelines for a Pandemic. And although you may not have completed your divorce just yet, you still need to cooperatively co-parent. While a crisis like the COVID-19 pandemic definitely adds to the stress of co-parenting, it also highlights why you chose Collaborative … [Read more...] about Collaborative Pandemic Co-Parenting: Putting Your Child First
For many parents, co-parenting when married is challenging and post-divorce it is darn near impossible. Different rules, different values, and different boundaries across two households can lead to significant conflict and difficulty in co-parenting. Add to this already bubbling cauldron of challenges a nationwide pandemic and shelter-in-place orders and the very real risk of boil-over readily … [Read more...] about 5 “C’s” FOR CO-PARENTING AND COVID-19
It’s not a secret that co-parenting is a job in of itself, one that requires many hours of on-the-job training. And since there is so much emotional labor involved, one or more parties might be tempted to lean on bad behaviors in moments of exhaustion or frustration. Here are some bad habits to avoid as a co-parent and how to avoid them. 1. Using your child as a messenger Learning how to be … [Read more...] about 4 Bad Habits of Co-parents and How to Break Them
Undoubtedly, divorce is one of the most difficult experiences for many people. Unwinding years of being together with one person is incredibly emotional. What makes it even more complicated is finding a way to navigate down this path when there are minor children involved. Many of my family law clients struggle to meet in the middle when it comes to raising their children in … [Read more...] about Why Does Collaborative Divorce Make Co-Parenting Easier?
‘Til Death Us Do Part – The Unintentional Fulfillment of Their Marital Vows, Even After their Divorce A former client called me today to ask what to do with regard to child support since her ex-spouse had died. After I told her, she thanked me for my help in their divorce. They divorced collaboratively. She went on to describe that in the eight plus years since their divorce, they … [Read more...] about ‘Til Death Us Do Part Even After Divorce