Divorce is stressful and creates a variety of emotions. It takes time for everyone to adjust to their new normal and for children to acclimate living in two homes instead of one. I often tell parents, adults choose to divorce, children do not, it’s not their decision to make, yet the divorce still happens to them. Children live the schedule and must adjust to two homes, multitasking their … [Read more...] about 5 Mistakes Parents Make During and After Divorce
Today's world presents many unnecessary stressors on children. For example, children should not have additional stress in their life from the two people they love and admire the most, their mother and father. These ten tips should help you co-parent in a more stress-free environment that will benefit not only you but more importantly will alleviate your child dealing with one less stressor in … [Read more...] about Ten Tips for Co-Parenting
There are some statements that therapists often hear from parents when they go through a traditional divorce. Instead of helping parents come together for the sake of their children, divorce frequently creates more disharmony and mistrust. The mental scars to the offspring cannot be overstated. Below are some of what therapists here. “My ex is poisoning my kids towards me. She is feeding them … [Read more...] about A Common Pitfall of The Traditional Adversarial Divorce Can Inadvertently Push Your Children Away
Children need to see their parents being supportive of each other, especially during a divorce. They need to see their parents having a united front - that they are still able to communicate with each other and make decisions for them that are in their best interest. Ultimately, children need to see that they are still both their parents even though they are getting a divorce. The Children's … [Read more...] about What Do Children Want and Need When Their Parents’ Divorce?
Dear Kelly Clarkson, I was reading about your pending divorce with your husband. This is probably a stressful time for you and your family. I have appreciated your artistry over the years and was moved to reach out to you. As a clinical social worker, I have worked with divorcing parents and their children for years and here are a few things I have learned and thought I … [Read more...] about An Open Letter to Kelly Clarkson
The transition from married to divorce can be daunting for parents. Children may have their own worries regarding the process of divorce. The family dynamic is changing in a major way, so they may have concerns and fears regarding this major life change. Parents are well served by maintaining a sense of security in their new situation and being aware of common worries regarding … [Read more...] about Top Worries Children Have About Divorce
This post is from MaryAnn Kildebeck, a professional counselor providing therapy for families and individuals, who has been involved in Collaborative Law since January 2006. She is a member of the New Paradigm Training team, providing training for collaborative professionals, a past President of the Denton County Collaborative Professionals, former Vice President of Public Education for the Global … [Read more...] about Addressing Your Child’s Psychological Stress During and After Your Divorce