Introducing the idea of Collaborative Divorce to your spouse. It is important for both husband and wife to believe that the Collaborative Divorce approach is the best way for them to get a divorce process. If your relationship with your spouse is cordial, you can give him or her information about the process and website references. However, if you think your spouse might be more likely to appreciate the information if it comes from a source other than you, brainstorm with your attorney about options for informing your spouse about Collaborative Divorce. Think about what approach would appeal to your spouse as well as what might upset him or her.
Here are some possible ways to introduce your spouse to Collaborative Divorce:
- Talk to your spouse directly if the lines of communication are open and if you and your spouse have agreed to get a divorce. Provide your husband or wife with articles, information and website references.
- Think about who has your spouse’s ear–you can talk to and educate them about Collaborative Divorce. Family members, pastors, marriage counselors, individual counselors, and mutual friends often have the ability to present information in a way that makes someone feel comfortable. The same information, if offered by a spouse, might be viewed with suspicion and not have the same impact.
- Sometimes, clients will ask their attorneys to mail their spouse information about Collaborative Divorce. For some, this might cause sa negative response to the information, so think carefully about whether there are other alternatives before you use this method for getting information about Collaborative Divorce to your spouse.