Last week, National Public Radio had a fascinating story on whether social media could break up a marriage — specifically, on how it can be used to facilitate and speed along infidelity. Emotional connections once requiring face-to-face contacts, phone calls, and clandestine meetings can now happen more subtly via a computer or a phone, and Facebook can be an expeditious route to finding and connecting with an old flame. Some might even be bold enough to leave e-mails on their computers or texts on their phone, which not only reveal that there’s an affair taking place, but could be used as evidence should the divorce happen in the courtroom. Undoubtedly, the infidelity and the digital evidence of that would become the focal point of the case.
The story, fascinating on its own, underscores the importance of the collaborative process and its advantages over the courtroom divorce. Whether the events leading to a divorce are aided via new technology, or simply happen the old-fashioned way, the collaborative process focuses on what needs to happen after the divorce, and protecting everyone involved as best as possible — rather than finding fault and blame, and looking to even punish the person found “at fault” for the divorce.