Getting divorced (and doing it well) is an expensive task.If someone were to do the impossible task of removing all the emotional complexity out of, it would be a lot like dissolving a business partnership. You must decide how to disentangle and rearrange all these things: FinancesHome(s)CarsKids schedules (maybe)Retirement plan(s) Most people struggle to handle tough decisions like this at any time - let alone when things are so emotionally difficult.ADDITIONALLY: There is financial … [Read more...]
Common Parenting Time Configurations
It can be helpful to have a starting place when beginning your “parenting plan writing” process. Gone are the days of assuming that one parent gets every other weekend and Wednesdays. Thankfully, the family law industry is moving in a much more equitable (and healthy) direction. Here are some common parenting plan schedules that we see in Collaborative Divorce and parenting planning in general. **All of the plans shown below reflect a 50/50 parenting plan arrangement. More than 95% of … [Read more...]
How Do We Tell Our Kids?
One of the most common concerns parents have as they approach divorce and separation is this: “What should we tell the kids, and how should we tell them?” Telling your children that you are separating or getting divorced can cause enormous feelings of guilt and sadness in parents. Parents are also understandably concerned that their kids will feel pain, anger or confusion, and parents often want to shield their children from these feelings. I can certainly understand that. Seeing … [Read more...]
Parenting Planning: Things to Be Aware Of
When it comes time to begin building out your parenting plan, the possible combinations of choices are literally endless. Here are just some of the topics that you'll need to discuss and agree upon: Parenting time ratios - 50/50? 60/40?Parenting time logistics - which days are at whose home?How do we choose childcare providers in the future?How do we handle holidays? Which holidays do we care about?Who will be in charge of passports?Which parent will handle primary care … [Read more...]
