This article is written by S. Camille Milner, a Denton-based collaborative lawyer and the current Vice-President of the Collaborative Law Institute of Texas’ board.
Many people suffering through the pain of divorce are looking for resources that will ease that pain. While a therapist’s office is the best place to work through the emotions of the ending of relationship, there’s a new book by Austin author Honoree Corder can be a bridge or offer temporary help for people until there are able to assemble a team to help them the rest of the way across the troubled waters into their new life.
Titled If Divorce is a Game, These Are the Rules, the book’s real strength and usefulness for people going through divorce is revealed in its subtitle: 8 Rules for Thriving Before, During and After Divorce.
As she herself notes on her website, “Facing a divorce, and the life that comes after it, isn’t easy.”
She explains, “If you are struggling to figure out how to get through your divorce emotionally, physically, practically, or mentally, or have been divorced for some time yet still find yourself bitter, sad, angry or resentful, [this book] provides the road map to turn your divorce into your personal breakthrough and design the new life of your choosing.”
The book is a fantastic resource for people looking to rebuild at all stages of divorce, and includes the following:
· The importance of assembling a team to support you during your divorce in order to get through your divorce faster.
· The types of people that should be on your support team.
· How to know the types of people that shouldn’t be on your team.
· How to develop a quick “divorce story” that you can use when well-meaning people ask about your divorce so that you do not get caught up in the counter-productiveness of dwelling on your divorce.
· The importance of protecting yourself and your mental health.
· How to implement extreme self-care.
· How to learn the importance of forgiveness to yourself and your ex
· How to avoid the mistake of making the divorce about material possessions.
· The notion that you will be able to get through your divorce and be better on the other side.
And, perhaps most importantly, the idea that:
· Divorce may not be the end, but a new beginning.
There’s also a fantastic podcast interview with Honoree available on the OverDivorce.com website. It’s a great listen for anyone wanting to know more about this important book.
