A few weeks ago, we posted an article highlighting the attachment theory training that collaborative divorce professionals from across Texas participated in recently. Curtis Harrison, the current president of the Collaborative Law Institute of Texas (and a partner with Dallas family law Goranson Bain), attended the training and provided his own take on attachment theory.
He focused on the ways that knowing your spouse’s (and your own) attachment type can influence the negotiations you’ll have while trying to settle the terms of a divorce. There’s also one piece of valuable information that’s good to be mindful of in any collaborative divorce situation:
“Try to balance your communications with a combination of objective information and subjective, positive feedback. Listen more than you talk. Reflect on what is said and show your spouse that you value and respect what he or she is saying to you (even though you are not necessarily saying you agree).”
It’s a great companion piece to the one that Steve Walker wrote for us several weeks ago, and illustrates the level that collaborative teams will go to in order to better understand their clients, and where their clients are coming from emotionally, in an effort to help them reach the best settlement possible.
