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5 Common Money Mistakes in Divorce

April 26, 2023 By Angela Deaton

Mistakes, Money and divorce

For most people, the divorce process is emotionally draining and mentally exhausting. Many people describe it as a time of being frozen, numb, or moving in slow motions. Despite that emotional and mental trauma, you will be expected to go through your finances with a fine-tooth comb to ensure that your settlement agreement is fair and equitable. With divorce brain, that’s easier said than done!

Even if you feel like you are clear headed, here are a few of the most common money mistakes to look out for when getting divorced. 

  1. Underestimating post-divorce expenses.  You will be asked to do a financial affidavit that reflects your expenses AFTER the divorce. It is critical that you are realistic and don’t leave anything out. This information will be used to determine if spousal maintenance is necessary or not. You should be sure to include everything from your health care deductibles to anticipated home repair charges for the roof you need to replace next year. Keep in mind current expenses that may increase over the years such as daycare, property taxes, etc. If you underestimate your expenses by $200 per month, that’s $2400 per year. Where are you going to get that extra money? When you’re the primary breadwinner this mistake could lead you to agree to pay maintenance that you ultimately can’t afford. A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™ will help you scrub your affidavit for errors and make sure that you don’t leave anything out.
  2. Believing that your attorney will handle everything.  Your attorney is an expert in the law, not finances. Would you ask your doctor for advice about legal questions? No, so why would you expect your attorney to be an expert in finances?  The attorney’s job is to ask you to fill out your financial affidavit and take your word for it that it is correct. A good attorney will glance over it looking for any glaring errors, but they are not trained to know the details behind asset tracing, QDRO support etc. The most commonly miss-valued asset is a pension. And sometimes, the pension is the most valuable asset in a marriage. I often see attorneys accept a present value statement from a pension as the correct value to include as marital property. It’s not even close. A CDFA™ can value it properly and make sure that tax ramifications are considered as well.
  3. Not taking Tax Deductions. Not everyone realizes that portions of your attorney or CDFA™ fees during divorce are tax deductible. Any fees for obtaining alimony and/or retirement funds during your divorce proceedings are tax deductible. This means your QDRO fees are deductible. Also, alimony/ spousal maintenance used to be taxable to the recipient and tax deductible to the payer. This is no longer the case as the payer can no longer deduct the pay. This should be considered when the settlement is drafted.
  4. Letting attorneys do the talking for you. The more you and your spouse can work out by just communicating, the more money you’ll save. I’ve seen many couples that could not bear to be in the same room but consider the cost. If you have your attorney relay information to the other spouse’s attorney, you’re racking up bills upwards of $600 an hour because you refuse to talk. Even if you can’t communicate verbally, email back and forth as to what you can agree on. This will save you time and money with the attorneys and mediation.
  5. Letting your emotions make your decisions. So many people going through divorce just want to “get it over with.” This is not the time to just throw your hands up and agree to a settlement just to be done with it. A 50/50 split of assets is almost NEVER a truly equitable settlement. So, put the emotions aside and think with a reasonable financial mind. Take your time and make sure you thoroughly understand what your future will look like after your divorce and be sure to hire the right experts to help you.

About Angela Deaton

Angela Deaton is a Collaborative Divorce Texas Financial Professional and a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP). In her practice, she researches guidelines and niches for borrowers going through divorce, advising both parties, the attorneys and realtors who work with them.

Filed Under: Angela Deaton, Our-Featured-Authors Tagged With: collaborative divorce, Finances, Money

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